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This little story may change the way you look at forgiveness and choice. Every time I tell it, I get choked up. I am glad that my Higher Power is looking for progress not perfection.
Here’s the story:
When the Chinese invaded Tibet many Tibetan Buddhist monks and nuns were held captive. These peace-loving contempletive men and women were systematically tortured, abused and murdered. One monk, a prisoner for several years narrowly escaped through the mountains into India. Soon after he gained freedom, the monk was interviewed regarding his ordeal. One of the questions asked of him was this: “What was your greatest fear during your captivity?” His response, “I was afraid that I would stop loving my captors”.
Who are you choosing to not forgive today?
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Body, mind and spirit are addressed at A Home Away. Chef Rene and Chef David create amazing delights. Drug Rehab is hard work. Our guests enjoy the fruits of Kelowna, and the fruits of their hard work. Go ahead, see what you missed by not starting your drug rehab last week.
We are very grateful at A Home Away. Last Saturday we hosted our 2nd Annual Alumni BBQ, and what a sucess. We had former guests come from far and wide, and some from just across the lake, to celebrate their sobriety in the place where it began. I commented to one of our former guests about how lucky John and I were for the grandchildren. “Oh,” he stated, “which one is your grandchild?”. I smiled big, and said, “All of them!” And there were a number of happy children present that have sober parents today. Some of them born before sobriety, some after, and one still in utero. What lucky children for their parents new lifestyle.
There were a lot of hugs and tears, and reminiscing. The kids took full advantage of the pool and the sunshine, splashing and laughing endlessly. Everyone else took advantage of the opportunity to reconnect, make new friends, and enjoy Chef Rene’s iced cappuchinos and fruit punch. After a few hours when we got to the actual BBQ, the meal, as expected, was amazing. People are still talking about Chef David’s chocolate cake masterpiece. I don’t know how he does it!
After we were all full, we moved down to the lower level of the patio. We put our chairs in a big circle, surrounded by blossoms and birdsong, and had a ’round of gratefuls’. Each person present (about 25 of us), had an opportunity to express what they were grateful for. There was overwhelming love surging through the circle as alumni shared about moving from the depair and death of addiction, to hope, light and peace.
Jim Copeman, our music director brought his drums and assortment of percussion instruments. Along with AHA’s own drums there was a music maker for everyone. Jim lead us in a few pointers, then in a melodic and hypnotic series of drumming sessions. It was an incredible experience, sitting into the late evening, the magnificant moon rising up to shine off the lake, and being a part of a drumming circle of miracles. Everyone had indeed moved from the discord of their lives to harmony with the universe. Thanks be to God.
And not to forget our beloved friend Cocoa, who seemed to enjoy the day almost more than we did. Thanks be to Cocoa!
Reprinted with permission, here is a great story about faith. At A Home Away Retreat, part of the assignments for spiritual sessions are to pay attention to animals that present themselves. If the universe was sending you a message, what might that message be? As far as I know, the Higher Power has never actually picked a phone to call or text the message – however, I’m sure there is a story for that too.
When I first came to Al-Anon, I had little faith. Very slowly, I came to a spiritual awakening and accepted nature as my Higher Power.
I believe every person I meet—in every situation—has a lesson for me. More often than not, I find I need to ask my Higher Power for clarification as to what I am supposed to learn. Eventually, I catch on.
In January of last year, my brother was diagnosed with lung cancer. He died four months later. I had already lost a sister some years before. I struggled to accept the loss of another sibling. What I was supposed to learn from his death? I lost faith and felt sorry for myself. I wondered: why me?
I kept going to Al-Anon meetings and reading the literature. I came to understand: “Why not me?” Why should I be spared the pain of losing someone? Yet I still couldn’t figure out how to accept his death or what I was supposed to learn from it.
One day, while I was praying for clarification on the lesson I was supposed to learn, a squirrel got caught in my “catch and release” trap. (We have a squirrel problem at our farm.) As soon as the trap door closed, the squirrel forgot the food that had lured him in.
He scurried around the cage looking for an escape. He chattered and ran back and forth, leaped from wall to wall, hung from the top, sniffed, and bit desperately at the cage wires. He dug at the ground and tried to stick his paws through the mesh. He was literally going nuts.
I drove him to the relocation site and wondered if my Higher Power was trying to tell me that I was acting as nutty as that squirrel.
I went to a meeting and heard that same member say, “If I don’t get results from prayer, I ask again.” So I went home and asked for absolute and clear understanding of the lesson I was supposed to learn.
I set the trap again and decided to test my Higher Power. If the message was that I was acting nutty, then my Higher Power would simply send another squirrel to be caught in the trap.
Very early the next morning, I was outside and heard the door of the trap click shut. I expected to see a squirrel, but instead there was a skunk in the trap. Okay, the lesson was what? That I stunk? That I only saw things in black and white?
I decided to sit and watch the skunk, and pray for clarity. To my surprise, the skunk did not spray. He walked slowly around the entire inside of the cage, carefully sniffed up as high as he could, then as low as he could.
He slowly and methodically checked out every inch of the trap, then turned back to the bait and proceeded to eat it. He then groomed his paws and face. Then, he began reaching through the wires on the cage floor and pulled in grass and roots. He meticulously piled and pushed and formed the grass and roots into a nest. He then reached through the sides of the cage and drew in more grass and roots and added them to his nest. After working for about half an hour, he curled up in a ball, and went to sleep.
Clearly the skunk was making the most of the situation. He accepted his present state of capture.
I finally learned the lesson. I should be like the skunk, not the squirrel. My brother is gone, but I still have other family members and my Al-Anon family. I can make the most of it, get on with life, and do the best I can with the ones left.
By Audrey, Saskatchewan
The Forum, June 2010
Al-Anon’s monthly magazine, The Forum, contains many personal stories of inspiration, some of which are made available each month on the Internet. This sharing was reprinted with permission of The Forum, Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA.
Don’t just sit there, do nothing!
What does One Day At A Time mean anyway? One day at a time? Many people are terrified to think of never using or drinking again. Long days and months and years and weddings and wakes and so on, stretch and stretch out in the mind into forever. It is too daunting for any alcoholic or addict to comprehend! And surprise, that is a good thing.
In recovery we learn to live in 24 hour segments. Just don’t drink today. That’s all. Just for this 24 hour period. Tomorrow will always look after itself, and it is never tomorrow anyhow.
Oh ya, and by the way, you can start that 24 hour period over again anytime. You don’t have to wait until the morning to restart your day. Who knew?
A Home Away Menu, July 1st to July 7th
We are eating some amazing meals here in drug rehab. Lovingly prepared and presented, 3 times a day. Take a look!
Lunch:
Grilled Vegetable and Goat cheese Wraps
Beef Tartar Quenelles on Crostini
Sautéed Zucchini and Eggplant Salad
Quark Fruit Mousse
Dinner:
Pork Tenderloin with warm Apple Chilli Vinaigrette
Olive Oil Oregano roasted Yams
Green and Yellow Bean Bundles
Kohlrabi in Horseradish Béchamel Sauce
Mixed Greens with roasted Bell Peppers and Goat Cheese
Potato Bread Rolls
Vacherin Ice Cream Cake
Lunch:
Shrimp Quesadillas with homemade Salsa and Guacamole
Chipotle Chicken Skewers with Cilantro Drizzle
Three Bean Salad
Grilled Fruit Kabobs with Yogurt Dip
Dinner:
Jerked Catfish on the Grill with Mango Salsa
Rice and Beans
Semolina Gnocchi
Spicy braised Kale with Peppers
Green Cabbage and Pink Lady Apple Slaw
Brioche
Banana Crème Caramel
Lunch:
Mini Ham Croissants
Chilled red Beet Soup
Jamica Cucumber Citrus Salad
Profiteroles filled with Vanilla Cream and Berries
Dinner:
Grilled Hoisin Chicken Thighs
Buttermilk Basmati Rice with toasted Coconut
Spicy Spinach Puree and Potatoes
Steamed yellow Curry Cauliflower
Green and red Leaf Lettuce with Cottage Cheese
Naan Bread
White Chocolate Tarte with Letchis and Blackberries